Despite Eugene’s lack of interest, his mother and her cousin Roze never gave up trying to find him the rich girl of their dreams. Eugene wrote about once such incident to his father:
Last night someone came to officially ask my mother whether I had the intention to marry; that it concerned a young lay full of good qualities, etc. The same story, with a dowry of 40,000 francs which would come on the day of the marriage, and the other 20,000 on the death of the parents. As soon as my mother heard what the dowry was, knowing exactly what I demand in this respect, she answered the ambassadress quite honestly, that I was only twenty-two years old and had very little desire to be married at the moment; furthermore, that I was about to do some traveling…; that she greatly appreciated the kindness of the people who were interested in me, but that she thought it better that they look elsewhere. They didn’t tell her who the young lady’s parents were, enough to say that she was not from Aix and from a middle-class family.
You can imagine how interested I was in all this. Forty thousand francs, when I want 150,000! And middle class! How do you think that fits in with my plans? If they can’t do better than that, I’m afraid that I shall die a virgin, if you’ll pardon the expression
Letter to his father, 18 January 1805
Money and class-consciousness made a prisoner of the young Eugene. How great God’s transforming grace would be that would set him free.
“Greed is a bottomless pit which exhausts the person in an endless effort to satisfy the need without ever reaching satisfaction.” Erich Fromm