ONE OBTAINS MORE BY BEING PLEASANT THAN BY EXCESSIVE STERNNESS
“All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today.” (Pope St. Paul VI)
Keeping a watchful eye on the young and inexperienced Father Daly, Eugene gives him some practical advice, especially in his dealings with a difficult diocesan priest with whom he was forced to work.
I have been told that you treat Rev. Power with too much severity. You know how much we need him. Moreover, one obtains more by being pleasant than by excessive sternness.
The situation in England was delicate as the presence of the Oblates was minimal and fragile until more English-speaking men would become Oblates and boost the mission. So, Fr Daly had to remain focused on being God’s instrument.
…. For the rest, I do not speak thus by way of reproach but as an observation in order that you may be more on your guard in the delicate position in which you find yourself… How thankful we should be to God for the blessings He showers upon our works. But let us render ourselves worthy of them by a great fidelity to our duty. You know that one preaches more by example than by words…
Letter to Father William Daly in Penzance, England, 6 December 1845, EO III n 12
In times of difficulty, let us aim to focus on God’s blessings as Eugene did and recommended.
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A part of me is distracted this morning with the mention of a ‘certain’ Rev. Power, as if knowledge of his place and his being would lead me to a more insightful reflection. I smile as I start-over, thinking that perhaps I too need to ‘remain focused on being God’s instrument’ no matter how small and imperfect that instrument might be. And for some reason I find myself looking back at those early Israelites being led out of Egypt by Moses who repeatedly became distracted and unfocused, with some turning away from God.
So to remain focused on being God’s instrument rather than doing everything ourselves and demanding perfection from ourselves as well as those around us. One might think that this latter behaviour would fill our hearts, but it seems to lead only to a certain type of emptiness – that of course pushes others away rather than inviting and drawing them nearer.
I am reminded of some of my behaviour 40 years ago, of God bringing me out of a life of darkness and sin when there were many times that I thought that I ‘knew it all’ and displayed a certain amount of arrogance. There have been many struggles over the years and as I experienced them, I thought that each was worse than the one before it. I have learned slowly that the only way to be is ‘grateful’: grateful for all the blessings that God has showered upon me. Never more so than the present time where fear of how I will manage the current weakness and vulnerability – yet where I also see without even seeming to have to try – I see the incredible goodness and beauty of most others around me. They lead by example and are the ‘real’ models for me, who I wish to emulate. I still have much to learn and experience and may it be without showing harshness or harming another. Gratitude is the greatest balance to be found in our lives.