“It is dangerous to make everybody go forward by the same road: and worse to measure others by oneself.” (
Eugene had just appointed Fr. Jacques Santoni as Novice Master in France and shared some advice about discernment regarding the suitability of his novices.
We cannot test our candidates enough lest we risk the unpleasantness of discovering when it is too late that we have been mistaken in their regard. All the same we must not tempt God by asking too much from human weakness. What I want to say is that not all are fit to be put through extraordinary tests.
Eugene then qualifies that it is the understanding and living of Gospel values as Oblates that must pass the test in the lives of the novices.
However, all must pass those tests designed to ground them in the virtues which they must practise. namely, obedience, poverty, self-denial, holy indifference towards everything that could be required of them in terms of work, place, persons. etc.
Letter to Father Jacques Santoni, 18 March 1845, EO X n 867
In our idealism in every day life, we are reminded not to push our family members, work companions, parishioners etc, beyond their human limits