LET US GO ABOUT OUR BUSINESS AS WE PLEASE: HONNI SOIT QUI MAL Y PENSE.
Eugene’s advice to the Oblates in Canada to focus on doing what is right rather than trying to please the opinion of others.
Furthermore I would wish that all of you, each as much as the others, focus yourselves more on your interior relations. What a mania you all have to speak of your business to everybody! Be polite but extremely reserved. Go about your business without troubling what all and sundry think of it. You often report to me the opinion of such and such a priest. What does it matter to me what they think? Where would we end if we were ever consulting the petty views of a flock of people? What concern is it of theirs? Is it not amusing to see them worrying about the opportuneness of the voyage of the particular Father whom you have sent to the General Chapter? In one of your letters, you told me you had to explain why, how, etc. What good is it to be so obliging? Once again, let us go about our business as we please: honni soit qui mal y pense. [ed: “shame on the one who thinks evil of it”]
Letter to Fr Jean Baptiste Honorat, 7 October 1843, EO I n 27
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I come her and sit with you this morning and find that my defences are up like a wall between myself and Eugene and I am not comfortable. I have sat here rationalizing and wanting to speak out my reasons for having acted as I have; for I have recognized part of myself in Honorat and want to defend why he did what he did so as to defend myself. And as I share with you this experience I find myself singing the words from the Redemptorist hymn, Father I Have Sinned:
Father I have sinned
Help me find my way
Remember not my sin
Just let me hear you say
I forgive you
I love you
You are mine
Take my hand
Go in peace
Sin no more beloved one.
And so, I erase all the words I wanted to write to rationalize and explain myself and where I have come from and why I am the way that I am. They are no longer necessary.
I realise with a sense of joy and gratitude the words from the Preface which when I first heard them I thought that Eugene was talking about me and why God had introduced us to each other: “We must lead men to act like human beings, first of all, and then like Christians, and, finally, we must help them to become saints.” This has been my personal experience of the congregation, the institute, the Mazenodian Family.
My lived reality today as an Oblate Associate and a daughter of St. Eugene is that: “I find [myself] among the marginalized of our community, our society and our church, taking [my] place among the poor and the powerless, walking with those who, like us, hold within themselves tremendous beauty, strength and gifts as well as weaknesses, brokenness and limitations, that together we may help one another experience the love of God, so we may be healed and give of ourselves in the service of the continuous unfolding of the reign of God within creation.” (from OMI Lacombe Canada Mission Statement)
It is in this way that I start anew today and “go about our business”.