{"id":5889,"date":"2024-11-04T01:00:55","date_gmt":"2024-11-04T00:00:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/?p=5889"},"modified":"2024-11-04T00:38:40","modified_gmt":"2024-11-03T23:38:40","slug":"it-is-much-better-to-inspire-confidence-than-to-frighten-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/?p=5889","title":{"rendered":"IT IS MUCH BETTER TO INSPIRE CONFIDENCE THAN TO FRIGHTEN PEOPLE"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Fr. Dassy, community superior in Nancy, was highly talented but very severe and demanding with the members of his community.<\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 80px;\"><em><strong>To tell you the truth, my dear Father Dassy. I cannot open a letter coming from Nancy without trembling. Since I last visited that town. I have not received a single one that has not disturbed me more or less. But the one that I am now answering surpasses them all. What a horrible discovery! <\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<h3>Fr Dassy had written to tell Eugne about the serious misbehavior of one of the members of the community.<\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 80px;\"><em><strong>And in telling about such horrors, instead of doing your best to console me, you turn back into yourself once again to complain that I have reproached you for being too severe&#8230; You admit, you add, that you did not scold him enough. Yes, be sorry, my dear friend; it is much better to inspire confidence than to frighten people&#8230;<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: right;\"><em>Letter to Fr. Toussaint Dassy, 16 October 1849, EO X n. 1025<\/em><\/h3>\n<h3>\n<strong>REFLECTION<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The Founder himself had a paternal love for each of the members of his religious family. He was severe when he had to be, but it was always within the context of his love for the person. We have several accounts of his exploding in anger at a situation, and then experiencing remorse when he realized he had hurt the person by being unduly harsh. A tearful hug always followed.<\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fr. Dassy, community superior in Nancy, was highly talented but very severe and demanding with the members of his community. To tell you the truth, my dear Father Dassy. I cannot open a letter coming from Nancy without trembling. Since &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/?p=5889\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5889","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-writings"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5889","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5889"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5889\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5889"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5889"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5889"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}