{"id":4837,"date":"2021-08-04T04:23:40","date_gmt":"2021-08-04T02:23:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/?p=4837"},"modified":"2021-08-04T04:23:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-04T02:23:40","slug":"by-knowing-how-to-modify-ones-own-ideas-and-to-adopt-those-of-others-that-one-gains-their-sympathy-their-help-and-their-affection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/?p=4837","title":{"rendered":"BY KNOWING HOW TO MODIFY ONE\u2019S OWN IDEAS AND TO ADOPT THOSE OF OTHERS THAT ONE GAINS THEIR SYMPATHY, THEIR HELP AND THEIR AFFECTION"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>Father Honorat, superior of the first group of missionaries to Canada, was inclined to make decisions without consultation. Here Eugene gives him advice which is applicable to all of us in every walk of life.<\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 80px;\"><em><strong>This is not all. I want to know the opinions of the other members of the community which you ought to consider as your Council duty-bound and with whom, if they fail to adopt your ideas, you must not be annoyed &#8230;In the name of Heaven, amend yourself and cease taking upon yourself alone a responsibility which necessarily has to be shared by others&#8230;<\/strong><\/em><br \/>\n<em><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><br \/>\n<em><strong>It is thus, by giving others marks of confidence, by showing them deference, by knowing how to modify one\u2019s own ideas and to adopt those of others that one gains their sympathy, their help and their affection. I say this, not to upset you but uniquely for your own good. Who will tell you the truth if I do not?<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"padding-left: 80px;\"><em><strong>&#8230;Do you wish to avoid opposition in the future? Keep to the Rule. Hold your meetings regularly and transact matters at them consultatively without ever wishing to gain your objective by authority. You shall see what strength you will gain from this way of proceeding.<\/strong><\/em><\/h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: right;\">\n<em>Letter to Father Jean Baptiste Honorat (in Canada), 10 January 1843, EO I n 14<\/em><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Father Honorat, superior of the first group of missionaries to Canada, was inclined to make decisions without consultation. Here Eugene gives him advice which is applicable to all of us in every walk of life. This is not all. I &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/?p=4837\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4837","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-writings"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4837","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4837"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4837\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4837"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4837"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.eugenedemazenod.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4837"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}