Since his conversion, Eugene had always lived the ideal of doing everything for God. All who joined him were expected to follow the same ideal – hence the name “Oblate” and the act of oblation, giving all for God. When Riccardi had lost sight of this ideal, he had become self-centered and unfocussed.
It is not my fault if your heart shut out the good emotions that grace no doubt would have aroused therein had you offered yourself to God with more generosity and less hesitation, had you not glanced back so much as you calculated the advantages that the world could offer you and listened to the voice of flesh and blood. Men of this stamp have never done any good in the Church, I do not see any raised to the honors of the altar and I doubt that there are any in heaven.
Letter to Nicolas Riccardi, 17 February 1826, EO VII n 225
“Too much self-centered attitude, you see, brings, you see, isolation. Result: loneliness, fear, anger. The extreme self-centered attitude is the source of suffering.” Dalai Lama