In his writings, Eugene’s affective nature often expresses itself. It was essential for him to have warm friendships. He always saw this as a God-given gift, and found as his model Jesus himself, who had close friendships in the Gospel.
Were I to heed myself, I now have had my fill of Rome; I cannot accustom myself to live in separation from those I love, I have no pleasure away from them. Oh! how happy we will be in heaven when we are all there together! Then there will be no more journeys, no more separation and although absorbed in God we will love our friends more than ever.
His intuitive vision of God did not prevent Jesus Christ from loving people, and amongst them, some more than others. That is how it is, however it pleases refined mystics to wish to give us, for the sake of perfection, another nature which assuredly would not be worth that which we have from God.
So much so that there is no happiness for me, separated from those who are mine!
Letter to Henri Tempier, 9 December 1825, EO VI n 211
“Beloved, if God so loved us, we also must love one another. No one has ever seen God. Yet, if we love one another, God remains in us, and his love is brought to perfection in us.” 1 John 4:11-12