At the end of October each year the Oblate community in Aix would have their annual retreat, and this year Eugene had come from Marseille to join the community for it. He wrote to Henri Tempier in Marseille:
If it is not absolutely necessary that I be in Marseille on the day of All Saints, I will spend the Feast here. You understand it would be difficult for me to reach Marseille in time for the liturgical celebration that I perhaps would miss in spite of hurrying all I can; so prevail on my dear uncle to grant me this permission. It is all the more necessary because, having stayed very fully on retreat, I have not been able to see anyone and yet everybody knows I am here and, as they scarcely have any idea of what it means to be on a strict retreat, certain persons would be tempted to be upset if I had spent eight days at Aix without seeing them. God knows I could willingly do without this.
He then contrasts the genuine pleasure of being with his Oblate family as opposed to the duty of having to go through the niceties and correctness of polite society that his position required him to interact with.
The delight that is mine when I am with our Oblates is worth more than anything else
and then the reflections that one makes on a successful retreat makes so many things and many people distasteful that one has to persuade oneself to be approachable to them, and comply with the expectations of politeness and what they call manners.
Letter to Henri Tempier, 29 October 1824, EO VI n 156
“Politeness is only one half good manners and the other half good lying.” Mary Wilson Little
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